pkg/p2p(ticdc): fix default p2p config (#11182)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #11182

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #11215

What is changed and how it works?

Increase the p2p configuration to cache more messages

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)

Deploy ticdc cluster(7 nodes, 8c16g, replicating 150k tables, 1 changefeed) with the following configuration:

[debug.scheduler]
add-table-batch-size = 1000

1. Before this pr:
   The scheduling task took up to 3 hours to complete:
   
2. This pr:
   The dispatch task was completed in 10 minutes:
   

Questions

Will it cause performance regression or break compatibility?

No

Do you need to update user documentation, design documentation or monitoring documentation?

No

Release note

`None`.

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Test name	Commit	Details	Required	Rerun command
jenkins-ticdc/verify	fdf43a5	link	true	/test verify
pull-cdc-integration-kafka-test	fdf43a5	link	true	/test cdc-integration-kafka-test
pull-cdc-integration-mysql-test	fdf43a5	link	true	/test cdc-integration-mysql-test
pull-dm-integration-test	fdf43a5	link	true	/test dm-integration-test

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