Memoize update function of useQueryState in a way that it doesn't go stale

[dongyeop-youha]

Currently, update function returned from useQueryState is changed when its behavior is changed (when key, history, serializers option is changed in runtime).

This causes previous returned function to go stale, and it should not be used if any of those options are changed.

If those options are persisted inside the hook with a useRef, and the update function accesses it, update function would not have to change and it won't ever become stale.